I’ve decided to write this piece today because of some comments made by Negro men about the Royal Wedding. Since I am Negro, this blog is directed to the men of my race. It saddens my heart whenever I hear or read some of your comments about marriage in general. Please see some literature which I’ve copied and pasted on research about marriage within our race:
Black marriage rate seems to be on the upswing--from 46.1 percent in 1996 to 47.9 percent in 2001--after a 40-year downward spiral.
But the slight increase is only one cheerful note in an otherwise mournful tune. The bad news is that the number of Black married couples is only half the number of married Whites, and the situation is getting worse. In 1963 when Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. gave his "I Have a Dream" speech, more than 70 percent of all Black families were headed by married couples. In 2002 that number was 48 percent.
An even more alarming statistic is the increase in the number of both Black men and women who have never been married. Nearly 45 percent of Black men have never married and 42 percent of Black women have never married. More to the point, an increasing number of Black women will never get married. The percentage of Black women who are married declined from 62 percent to 31 percent between 1950 and 2002.
Not only are African-Americans marrying at a lower rate, they are also marrying at a later age. The Joint Center for Political and Economic Studies reports that by the age of 30, 81 percent of White women and 77 percent of Hispanics and Asians will marry, but that only 52 percent of Black women will marry by that age. Black women are also the least likely to re-marry following divorce. Only 32 percent of Black women will get married again within five years of divorce; that figure is 58 percent for White women and 44 percent for Hispanic women.
Thus, we have another major crisis on our hands. Quiet as it's kept, we are confronted with one of the biggest crises in the history of African-American people.
I don’t know about you but for me, this is a pretty depressing read. Our men waste too much time running through women and doing wrong in the early stage of their lives. Having a high count of women under your belt for the sake of bragging is doing nothing positive for our race, it is weakening our race! Women look at men as the protector which means in our hearts you will do us no wrong but many of you set out to deliberately do wrong for the sake of counting numbers. We as a RACE need to change our mindsets about life. Any time I write a piece on relationships, It’s never directed towards one sex, I mention where both sexes are wrong. I’ve seen men tell women to keep their legs closed which I agree with BUT I hardly ever see those same men talk to men about resisting the temptation to deceive women for the sake of getting in their pants. Many men send out the message that “men will be this way regardless so women need to keep their legs closed” Well I, Arlene J Ramsey is stopping by to tell you that both men and women are wrong. Men don’t have the right to be deceitful and it is time some great men speak on this. Women are naturally naïve and easily persuaded by men because GOD made us this way, it is a part of our make up so that we will submit to man. Now when most of you want to get married in your late 30’s early 40’s you are having a hard time getting your lady to submit or let you rule. I am not taking sides but I stand by my words which are women need to learn how to step back and let the world spin so they can gather their thoughts and understand exactly what ‘s going on in their lives. Also, women need to learn how to stop being deceitful and conniving, especially to men who loves you. He does not need to pay for what all the others did, take some responsibility for your actions, deal with it, and enjoy your life with the new man who loves you. And men need to understand that having hundreds of women does not make you a man, it deems you to be a wild male only. Being a man takes much more than sleeping with plenty of women.
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