Amazing! Know your style and other styles of communication, it makes communicating much easier~

Assertive Communication is a style in which individuals clearly state their opinions and feelings, and firmly advocate for their rights and needs without violating the rights of others. Assertive communication is born of high self-esteem. These individuals value themselves, their time, and their emotional, spiritual, and physical needs and are strong advocates for themselves while being very respectful of the rights of others.

Assertive communicators will:

State needs and wants clearly, appropriately, and respectfully

Express feelings clearly, appropriately, and respectfully

Use “I” statements

Communicate respect for others

 Listen well without interrupting

Feel in control of self

Have good eye contact

Speak in a calm and clear tone of voice

Have a relaxed body posture

Feel connected to others

Feel competent and in control

Not allow others to abuse or manipulate them

Stand up for their rights

The impact of a pattern of assertive communication is that these individuals:

Feel connected to others

Feel in control of their lives

Are able to mature because they address issues and problems as they arise

Create a respectful environment for others to grow and mature

The assertive communicator will say, believe, or behave in a way that says:

“We are equally entitled to express ourselves respectfully to one another.”

“I am confident about who I am.”

“I realize I have choices in my life and I consider my options.”

“I speak clearly, honestly, and to the point.”

“I can’t control others but I can control myself.”

“I place a high priority on having my rights respected.”

“I am responsible for getting my needs met in a respectful manner.”

“Nobody owes me anything unless they’ve agreed to give it to me.”

“I’m 100% responsible for my own happiness.”

Arlene's Quotes!

One who learns something new everyday is one who has the recipe for knowledge. One who lives by what they teach is one who has the recipe for wisdom! Take heed my friends~

Life's Good~

Yeszir, as I would say from time to time. This entire week has been very exciting for me, I’ve had meetings after meetings, and productive phone calls after phone calls. Definitely, i am running in the direction I’ve pointed my arrow with no intentions of looking back because as that good ol’ saying goes “it’s not where you’re from it’s where you’re going”.Appointment times and dates were noted on a pink sticky note after each phone and stuck to the ledge of my computer desk. As appointments were fulfilled, I made sure the notes came down to make room for more. Huuuuum, this reminds me of working in an office I said to myself a few days ago but the difference is that I’m working from MY HOME office. Yesterday I went to BookExpo America which was held at the Jacob Javits Center to take pictures as my book was showcased. *all smiles*, within a year things will all start to pay off and will have more than come together. I have no worries about when things will come together because I know the only factor that stands between my dreams becoming a reality is time. Understand that once you’re putting in the work and being proactive, time is the actuality! Now, some people may say “well, it could happen in 5, 10, 15, or even 20 years, who knows” I say yes, that is correct but it can also happen the next day, week, month, or year. There is no minimum or maximum when it comes to time so grind hard and always be thinking of your next move. Keep dreaming and pushing towards your dream, let no one decide your future because you have to live with the decisions they made for you which will not be suitable for you. Love you guys~ :0)

Knowing Purpose and being Spiritual is Liberating~

Yes, this is absolutely true! Once you know what your purpose is you do not waste time with people or doing things which does not enlighten or help you to walk in your purpose. Life becomes easier because you no longer just exist and you now have reason to want to be alive. You understand you have a job to do and you are going to do it by any means necessary! Knowing purpose helps you to see the end result during each phase but you never see how you’ll get there. Having faith and decision will get you to where you need to go. But of course we cannot forget Spirituality. One will only know their purpose in life after becoming spiritual. Yes, being spiritual helps you to understand just exactly who you are and that is where and how you claim your “I AM”

Stop Running~

Never run from your problems! As hard as it may seem to face them, remember that the devil only target people who run. When you face him head on with the Holy Spirit, he will flee hence, you will realize that the problem isn't as bad as you thought it was~

Ladies, we are not better at cheating than men are!

I know some of you think we're slick and say we cheat and do not get caught like men do and men don't know when you cheat. Maybe he may not know if you cheat once but if you are repeatedly cheating on your man, he knows! You will act different no matter how much you try to be yourself. If he doesn't say anything it's because he do not care about you in the way you need him to. Men are territorial, that will never change and all men are the same when it comes to being territorial. No man will tolerate another man sleeping with his woman or his wife. Typically he will fix to leave because he is the only man who shall enter. This is a reality check! If you are a habitual cheater, chances are your husband or man doesn't care about you or he is only with you because he thinks that he cannot get better. If he thinks he cannot get someone to be with him like you are with him, it doesn't mean he loves you, it means that he doesn't want to be alone and will put up with your foolishness because at least, you are still there. Again, it has absolutely nothing to do with caring about you. I think all women need to learn the orders, ethics, and balance of life and relationships with men. Trust me that is the saddest place for any woman to be because we like to know we are held high in the minds of our men. We like to know he’s our protector, comforter, and defender. A man will move mountains and then some for the woman he loves but she cannot be a cheater. If you have freedom to run like that, it is because he doesn't give two cents about you. This is some food for thought and nourishment for your soul, take heed~

Phenomenal Woman~

Passionate, loving, kind, short-tempered, take no shorts, assertive, willing, know what I want and what I need, confident, loves to meet & greet, call it like I see it, say it how it is, blunt, my honesty can be unintentionally brutal, love to teach, love to learn, can talk about anything, will knock somebody out if I need to, well spoken, speak over people at times, gives the benefit of the doubt, has allot of love to give and want to receive allot of love, Loves love, complex, considerate, courageous, loves animals, spiritual, master of my universe, believe in God, see the bigger picture, sensitive, warm, know my purpose, look for a better way, problem solver, love to make life easy, comforter, easy to cry, emotional, honest, loyal, represent what I believe, stand for the cause, righteous, proud, reserved, very analytical, wise, sexy, observant, persistent, inspiring, love to please, think outside the box, versatile, achiever, successful, intellectual, champion, above competition, love to laugh, playful, love to cook, love to eat, love to decorate, love to travel, my way or the highway, flexible, knows why and how, want to be liked & accepted, and has zero tolerance for non-sense.  Do you recognize me?